Shalom and welcome to the wonderful world of therapy with Nili! In this "home" section below, you will learn about what Narrative Therapy is, and in what other fields Nili can be of service to you and your family! Keep scrolling to see photos of Nili's work... and for more about her background and testimonials, please refer to the "about" section of the website. There is a "contact" section as well! Feel free to reach out and book a session today! So... What is Narrative Therapy?
Narrative Therapy works incredibly by giving the client true honor, deep respect, and honest curiosity. It is founded on the belief that the problem is separate and distinctly apart from the person. A problem does not define a person. A problem is something that a person is dealing with, not something that a person is. The goal is to transform the effect that the problem has on your life. Narrative Therapy utilizes the power of people’s personal stories to discover the life purpose of the narrator. Clients are encouraged, through a respectful and cooperative relationship, to address the problems in their lives that exist amidst social, political, and cultural storylines.
There are many benefits of narrative therapy. One of the biggest benefits of engaging in this form of therapy is being able to sift through the past to uncover things that had previously remained hidden. Acting as a facilitator and an investigator, the therapist is able to pose questions that challenge prior conceptions and reveal maladaptive behaviors. This can be a thoroughly revealing process, resulting in an insight that cannot be achieved through other traditional forms of therapy.
Often to be discovered are what begin as thin traces to subordinated stories of intentions, hopes, commitments, values, desires and dreams. With curiosity and exploration these preferred stories and accounts of people’s lives can become thickened and richly described. Moreover the focus is not on ‘experts’ solving problems. It is on people co-discovering through conversations, the hopeful, preferred, and previously unrecognized and hidden possibilities contained within themselves and unseen story-lines. To this end, those interested in narrative practices collaborate with people in ‘re-authoring’ the stories of their lives.
Nili is also a Torah Teacher, Spiritual / Ceremonial / Nature Guide & Inspirational Speaker?
Yes! Nili teaches enthusiastic, experiential and empowering Torah, leads tour groups in spiritual activities and into nature, and leads milestone ceremonies including bridal prep, engagement, wedding prep, chuppah, bedekin, blessing ways, births, brit milah, pidyon haben, & bar/bat mitzvahs.
Beloved by students around the world, Nili offers Torah classes in a variety of seminary and gap year programs across Israel, private shiurim for different communities across Jerusalem, as well as internationally via Skype & Zoom.
Popular Torah courses include, Funky Parsha & Midrashim, Getting to Know You: The Torah of Our Lives, Mystical Middot and Meditation, Spiritual Practices of the Kabbalah, Times of the Year, Discovering Where We are Now, The Secrets of the Aleph Bet, Sing-it Sister, Around the Fire, Healing Alternatives from Torah, and The Shabbas Course. Nili teaches formally, in family settings, and in one-on-one tutoring sessions.
Nili is also the Co-Director of "Shalem B'Teva: Torah & Nature, Outdoor & Camping Adventures" which she founded and runs with her brother, Rabbi Ariel Shalem.
Nili speaks for hire, for tour groups, Birthright groups, and various seminaries. Her style has been called fun, vulnerable, deep and courageous. Her preference is to 'keep it real' with whatever audience she speaks to. Spiritual, uplifting, and to the point.